A lot has changed in dating since Corona. But what actually distinguishes long-term singles from short-term singles? This question was investigated by the dating platform Gleichklang.de. The results are exciting!
Single is single, right? Not if you look at the survey of the dating platform Gleichklang.de. Because here it quickly becomes clear: long-term singles tick quite differently than short-term singles.
To obtain data, 789 members were surveyed.
After the evaluation, it quickly became clear: long-term singles seem to suffer from inhibitions more often. At the same time, however, they are often more satisfied with their partnerlessness than short-term singles.
By the way, anyone who has been single for three years or less is considered a short-term single. Anything over that is considered a long-term single.
Short-term and long-term singles compared
One-third of female and more than half of male long-term singles surveyed said they were inhibited. This compares with only 25% of women and 35% of men among short-term singles.
They even go so far as to state that inhibitions are the reason for their partnerlessness.
But that doesn't even seem to bother many people that much. 60% of women and just under half of male long-term singles say it's okay for them not to have a relationship. Short-term singles, on the other hand, would like to have a partner by their side again sooner.
Sexual difficulties were also cited by respondents as a reason for not being in a relationship.
Am I incapable of relationship?
What do psychologists say about it?
Psychologist Dr. Guido F. Gebauer recognizes a connection. "Inhibitions or sexual difficulties can make it more difficult to find a partner and lead to a prolongation of being single."
This in turn can increase inhibitions and sexual problems, which further complicates the search for a partner. A vicious circle at its finest.
This is similar for satisfaction with being single. If you are very satisfied with your single life, you don't get involved enough in the search for a partner. And that leads to not finding a partner.
"The longer you are single, the more you settle into your single existence, you accept the situation and are happy without a partner. "This further reduces the willingness for change and partnership," explains the psychologist.
Overcome commitment anxiety in 3 steps!
This is what the psychologist recommends
Gebauer advises singles who suffer from inhibitions to make an active effort to overcome them. "Doing nothing will cause inhibitions to persist and may even exacerbate them."
Online dating platforms can help, where you learn to make contact and write/talk to each other. But also courses for communication and self-confidence help to find a partner. Flirting courses are very popular.
Many singles are on a compulsive search for a partner, because it feels like everyone in their circle of friends has a partner. This leads to enormous pressure on those affected, which makes it difficult to start a new relationship.
However, if you feel very comfortable as a single person, then you don't have to change anything. Don't let anyone tell you that you urgently need to be in a relationship. Accept being single. We women in particular are often expected to be in a fixed relationship after a certain age. "Otherwise you will never find a man" or "How are you going to have children now" - these are just a few of the typical statements.
But that's not the point, it's important that you feel comfortable and stay relaxed. Then it should be much easier to find a partner. Don't let yourself get stressed!
That's why you're permanently single and that's what you can do about it!
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